tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627300702021032288.post8241826098416883536..comments2024-02-15T23:36:32.200-05:00Comments on When Cows and Kids Collide: Preparing to Be a Help Meet: Ellie's Love Story - Part ThreeNatureLoverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11431801349592342650noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627300702021032288.post-504091552585710052017-12-10T09:18:24.951-05:002017-12-10T09:18:24.951-05:00Remember the ideal Emo-Pure couple manages to get ...Remember the ideal Emo-Pure couple manages to get married without ever feeling attracted to each other in an inappropriate (read: sexual or noticeable to outsiders) way. I think a lot of these stories would read differently from someone who was watching in real time.... NatureLoverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11431801349592342650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627300702021032288.post-63578813761563852542017-12-08T19:11:38.465-05:002017-12-08T19:11:38.465-05:00"Not once had I told her how gorgeous she was..."Not once had I told her how gorgeous she was, how much I enjoyed being around her or how I longed to just hold her hand."<br /><br />To quote Gunther from Friends: You..IDIOT!<br /><br />"She was busy with school, ministry, service and even setting up socials. Ellie was patient. For years, she had her eye on her "Italian Prince" but never pushed herself or demanded that he make up his mind and declare his interest! Her busy life helped her stay focused on serving God."<br /><br />Those socials she arranged were to GET ATTENTION from him, not to be busy or focused on anything else. So no, she wasn't sitting around waiting, she was flying around waiting for him to look her way, doing whatever she could short of trapeze-swinging from the church ceiling to get him to notice her. You even admit this yourself, Debi.<br /><br />Furthermore, it infuriates me that she was so sure God would hand him right over to her on the way back from the mission field. Why, because she'd been a good little girl and taken a four month vacation from her obsession with his Highness? Finally fully focusing on something else? This is made more annoying by how little she actually did to let him know what she felt.<br /><br /> Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04905272108326085380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627300702021032288.post-43602243858528692962015-04-28T16:08:35.854-04:002015-04-28T16:08:35.854-04:00Once upon a time, when I was in high school, I met...Once upon a time, when I was in high school, I met one of those nice Christian boys. I liked him. I think he may have liked me, but he was so busy doing the "good Christian guys don't tell girls they like them" thing that I was mostly just confused. And of course, I wasn't going to tell him that I liked him (I'd tried that at fourteen with a boy and the friendship we'd been building sort of imploded, so I took that as a sign that I needed to bury my feelings). So, good Christian guy...he'd ignore me. Or he'd compliment me about something in a really awkward way that made it seem like he was saying it in spite of himself. Or that was that time he punched another guy for noticing the two of us chatting together and shouting that we made a great couple (in hindsight, not really a good sign). The last time I saw him, he was moving to the other side of the continent for school, and I was moving to a different country for school. We briefly exchanged emails that first semester about a charity thing his mom was organizing (because, of course, I knew his mom and sister better than him), and now we're facebook friends who very occasionally comment on each other's statuses. <br /><br />I married someone else several years after the last time I saw this guy. We were young enough that we had some entertaining communication problems when we started dating (mind-reading is not one of my husband's skills), but that's less problem since we've been a couple for nearly ten years, and have had time to work things out. I don't expect him to read my mind, and he doesn't expect my emotions to be as straightforward as his (personality type thing, not a gender thing), etc.<br /><br />But yes, sitting around waiting for the guy to say something seems more likely to lead to what happened to me. We're both married to other people (thank God!) and we live on opposite sides of the planet. Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10479587232733503096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627300702021032288.post-80160701822427812542014-11-25T12:53:45.574-05:002014-11-25T12:53:45.574-05:00I wised up my senior year and realized all the &qu...I wised up my senior year and realized all the "geek" group I was handing out with was....male. And single. I put word out that I wanted a date for a dance...and got a date. My female friends who wanted someone to see them, swoop in and ask them out didn't get dates. (I offered to set them up - I usually had 3-5 available male friends who would have asked them out of they were interested. The ladies declined.)<br /><br />The same pattern followed us into our adult lives. I realized when I was in my late 20's that I wasn't meeting many available guys. I signed up for eHarmony, dated a few guys, met my husband and married him. NatureLoverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11431801349592342650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627300702021032288.post-73390936472415409962014-11-25T00:05:16.787-05:002014-11-25T00:05:16.787-05:00Oh man - my high school years are littered with lo...Oh man - my high school years are littered with lost opportunities mainly because I was busy and patient and trying so hard to hide my feelings because "girls don't show boys they are interested." <br /><br />Oh well - I'm happily married now, but I don't want my girls to think they have to be completely passive and leave it up to the guy to intuit the feelings that they are hiding. That makes NO sense.Athena Carsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16954735773608707847noreply@blogger.com